I’m going to say this whenever I talk about sex. Pornography is not sex. Let me say that again. Porn is not sex. Porn is performance. More, women are generally not the ones that porn is made for. Or by, for that matter. Women are the main subjects of porn, but most porn is made for men. That means, that even when you grow up, if you are a girl/woman/femme most porn is not made for you. And it’s really, REALLY, not meant for kids. Any kids. Not even teens.
In my world, ideally, when we have sex, it is with someone with whom we share mutual respect and affection, if not love. But people, even the people we love, even the people who love us, can be selfish and shitty at times. It is shocking that even now, in the twenty twenties, a lot of the same bullshit is still floating around. Take blue balls.
Blue balls, medically known as epididymal hypertension, is when a guy gets close to coming (cumming?) but doesn’t. The excess blood in the penis and testicles during erection ends up hanging around, building up into a painful pressure. It’s actually pretty common. But the cure is literally in the penis owner’s hands. There is absolutely no need for a partner’s “help” unless said partner is enthusiastically up for it. By the way, the vulva version is “red pelvis,” and the treatment is the same. Masturbation as medicine, yay!
By the way, a reminder that sex without consent is not sex. You can change your mind at any point in a sexual experience. You are not “obligated” to go through with anything. You can consent to one thing and not another. And just because you consented to something in the past does not mean you have consented to it forever. YOU decide what you like. You decide what you want to do.
So, if your partner is pressuring you for sex tell them to handle it themselves. And if you are pressuring someone for sex stop it because you are crossing lines of consent. Also, if masturbation doesn’t alleviate the problem, or (for those that have them) if your balls are actually blue, please see a doctor.